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kon's avatar

don’t hide behind proxy’s, face uncertainty head on

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stepfanie tyler's avatar

you can just face uncertainties

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Max Murphy's avatar

cannot get over how well-designed your essays are. all lower case titles, em dash at the end, squiggly dividers. This is peak aesthetic.

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stepfanie tyler's avatar

you're my #1 hype man, Max—can't tell you how much i appreciate it 🫶

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Max Murphy's avatar

girl, i'm honored to be granted that title. I will defend it (even if it means fighting to the death).

fr though, i'm just trying to learn from the best.

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Jawo's avatar

Move or get moved on. Act or react. Implement your own codex, or be governed by others

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stepfanie tyler's avatar

it really do be like that

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Dr. Gena Gorlin's avatar

Love this and agree with most of it. My own list of “hard truths” also includes:

“You don’t have to do anything but die.”

“Your life can be awesome if you make it so.”

“Death, mediocrity, and ignorance are the default.”

“Wishing and pretending don’t make it so.”

Re: “certainty is an illusion,” I’d modify that to “omniscience/infallibility is an illusion.” I think writing off certainty as impossible risks lowering our epistemic bar in a way that’s actually low-agency (as I’ve written about here: https://builders.genagorlin.com/p/intellectual-humility-is-a-copout ).

Anyway, love the spirit of what you’re getting at here!

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LaBelleVoyageuse's avatar

good one! very true!

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Afeerah Naseem's avatar

Busyness is not equal to purpose

Well that is a hard pill to swallow!!!

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Michael Angelo Truncale's avatar

Good one!

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Brian Gibb's avatar

Why are these truths hard? Where are you going? What's the rush? Where's the joy? You have been gifted awareness and agency and the freedom to explore so many possibilities. What are you trying to do with your life that makes it so difficult? It sounds like you are carrying a heavy burden. I don't get it.

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stepfanie tyler's avatar

I'm saying these truths are hard for most people to grasp because it puts your entire life in your own hands, which can be as scary as it is liberating.

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Saif's avatar
6dEdited

“Dying with your music inside of you” is the biggest wake up call. I love that metaphor.

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stepfanie tyler's avatar

one of my absolute favorites—full quote:

“Many people die with their music still in them. Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it time runs out.”

― Oliver Wendall Holmes

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